MISCARRIAGE KEEPSAKES: GENTLE WAYS TO REMEMBER AN EARLY PREGNANCY LOSS
One of the particularly difficult things about miscarriage is how few physical reminders of your baby may exist.
There may be a positive pregnancy test.
A scan photograph.
A date written in a diary.
A due date nobody else remembers.
Or perhaps almost nothing at all.
Yet the love, hope and plans attached to that pregnancy were real.
For some families, having a miscarriage keepsake creates a physical place for those memories to exist.
DO I NEED A KEEPSAKE AFTER MISCARRIAGE?
No.
There is no correct way to grieve pregnancy loss.
Some people desperately want something tangible.
Others do not.
Some use their baby's name openly.
Others keep the experience completely private.
Some feel grief immediately.
For others, feelings change weeks, months or even years later.
You are not required to memorialise a pregnancy in any particular way.
A keepsake is simply an option for families who would like one.
WHY EARLY PREGNANCY LOSS CAN FEEL INVISIBLE
With later baby loss there may be photographs, footprints, handprints and hospital memory boxes.
After an early miscarriage, parents may have far fewer physical belongings connected with their baby.
This can create a strange contrast.
Something enormously important has happened, but there may be almost nothing in the home that acknowledges it.
A small personalised keepsake can provide that acknowledgement without needing to be large or obvious.
SMALL MISCARRIAGE KEEPSAKE IDEAS
There are many gentle ways to remember a pregnancy.
You might choose:
• A piece of birthstone jewellery
• A candle
• A framed scan photograph
• An engraved necklace
• A memory box
• A personalised ornament
• An angel-wing keepsake
• A tiny personalised teddy
• A plant or tree
• Artwork featuring the baby's due date
What matters isn't the monetary value.
It's the meaning attached to it.
TINY WEIGHTED MISCARRIAGE KEEPSAKES
A traditional birth weight bear isn't suitable for every loss because babies lost very early in pregnancy can have extremely small weights.
That's why MargotLoves has developed much smaller keepsake options alongside our standard baby loss bears. We can weight our teeny tiny bears from 30g. We also have the option to make angel wings bundles that weigh as little as 1g that can be purchased alongside a personalised bear with your babies details on the front. Get in touch if these are of interest to you.
Our tiniest ranges give families another option when remembering babies lost much earlier in pregnancy.
Some customers choose a tiny bear.
Others prefer symbolic designs such as hearts and angel wings.
The keepsake doesn't have to replicate the physical size or appearance of a baby.
It simply creates something that represents them.
CAN A MISCARRIAGE KEEPSAKE BE PERSONALISED?
Yes.
And personalisation can be as discreet as you need.
It might include:
A first name
A significant date
A due date
Or simply one small detail known only to you.
Not every baby was formally named, either.
That doesn't mean you cannot have a keepsake.
You may choose initials, a nickname, a symbol or no text at all depending on the design.
MISCARRIAGE GIFTS FOR SOMEBODY ELSE
When somebody you love experiences miscarriage, the desire to "do something" can be overwhelming.
There isn't a gift that can make what has happened okay.
But a thoughtful acknowledgement can tell the parents that their loss hasn't been ignored.
If you're considering buying a personalised miscarriage memorial, think carefully about the person receiving it.
Some people will find a permanent keepsake deeply meaningful.
Others may find an unexpected personalised memorial too difficult.
If you're unsure, asking gently is completely acceptable.
REMEMBERING A DUE DATE
Due dates can be particularly emotional following miscarriage.
The date may have been mentally circled from the moment the pregnancy test turned positive.
Even when nobody else knows it, the parent often does.
Some people therefore choose their baby's due date rather than the date of their loss when personalising a keepsake.
Neither option is more correct.
Choose the date that means something to you.
PREGNANCY AFTER LOSS
A future pregnancy doesn't replace the pregnancy that ended.
Families can feel enormous joy welcoming another baby while still remembering the baby they lost.
Small keepsakes can sometimes help families give each baby their own place within the family's history.
One child's existence does not require another child's memory to disappear.
INCLUDING MISCARRIAGE WITHIN THE FAMILY STORY
Some families talk openly about losses with subsequent children.
Others keep them private.
Again, there is no single correct approach.
If you do choose to include your baby within your family's story, a keepsake can provide something physical to accompany those conversations later.
Rather than trying to explain an abstract pregnancy from many years ago, you may have a tiny teddy, ornament or memory box associated with that baby.
WHY MARGOTLOVES CREATES KEEPSAKES FOR VERY SMALL WEIGHTS
MargotLoves exists because baby loss is part of our own story.
Over the years, creating weighted bears for families highlighted something important: traditional-sized weighted bears cannot represent every baby.
Pregnancy and baby loss happen across many different gestations and circumstances.
So our range has expanded to include much smaller keepsake options too.
For our very smallest losses, we offer symbolic keepsakes including our angel wings and heart bundle, alongside tiny bears for higher weights.
There shouldn't be a minimum amount of time you had with your baby before you're allowed to remember them.
CHOOSING SOMETHING THAT FEELS RIGHT FOR YOU
Don't worry about what somebody else would choose.
You might want a traditional teddy.
You might prefer something tiny.
You might want angel wings.
You might want a completely non-religious design.
You might want your baby's name displayed clearly.
You might want something only you understand.
The right miscarriage keepsake is simply the one that fits your story.
SOMETHING SMALL FOR SOMEBODY WHO MATTERED
The physical size of a pregnancy does not determine the size of the hopes attached to it.
A tiny keepsake cannot capture everything you imagined for your baby.
But it can provide one physical object acknowledging that this pregnancy happened, this baby is remembered and this mattered.
Explore the MargotLoves miscarriage and baby loss keepsake collection, including tiny personalised bears and memorial keepsakes created for the smallest babies at MargotLoves.co.uk.